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Princes of Dol Amroth
February, 25 2006
Questions about the life and times of Imrahil and his family can be asked here, including questions about Ultimatums, Kin-Strife and the shorter stories. Discussions about Brand can go either here or in the Best-Loved Son thread, since his stories sort of overlap both cycles.
Oh you guys it's great to be butting heads with you again, although I really should be focused on grading... heh heh...
Imhiriel wrote: drinking seems to me rather to be a sign of his "moping" *g* as a search for oblivion.
Yes, that's just it -- I see it as him trying to drown his sorrows too, and that's why I'm disappointed in him. I understand why Imrahil fell for Hethlin -- he'd been keeping his needs on a leash in that regard for a long time until he met her, in part because of his family obligations, and then probably out of habit. Plus many of the eligible women he'd have been exposed to over the years were probably blatant in their wish to be the new Princess of Dol Amroth. Who can blame him?
So while I totally see why he "woke up" when he met Hethlin, I'm disappointed that he hasn't had the self-awareness to recognize that part of the reason he feels so strongly about her might be because she was the first time he'd let his guard down on that front. I've also said this before: they really haven't had much one-on-one interaction, so I don't see how he could believe himself to be in love with her rather than merely infatuated. Infatuations can hit hard, I know! I still find myself falling prey to them now and then ... but as I get older I realize more that they're not necessarily a sign that something is "meant to be." Imrahil is no callow youth, convinced that because he's in love it must work out.
I'm disappointed that he's allowing himself to wallow in some degree of misery, to the point where he seeks oblivion in a bottle, rather than picking himself up, brushing himself off, and saying, "Right. OK, that's not going to be an option for me, let's move on." He's usually very pragmatic, a shrewd assessor of which way the wind is blowing, and quite good at engaging in merciless self-reflection, acknowledging mistakes, etc. Since Hethlin hasn't given any indication that she returns his feelings at all -- let alone with the intensity that he feels -- I'm just surprised and disappointed that he hasn't taken that in stride and moved on.
Because as it is, he is pressuring her. If Brand is sharp enough to pick up on Imrahil's feelings for Hethlin, you know that she is uncomfortably aware of them! I found myself relating to Hethlin during the kitchen encounter, remembering times that I've encountered men socially who had previously indicated a romantic interest in me that I didn't return. It's awkward, if you're someone who tries to be careful about others' feelings. You don't want to create even the slightest impression that you are encouraging their feelings but you don't want to be rude, either.
Sigh. Just sorry to see that it's come to this for Imrahil. I don't see what would have been wrong with a lusty dalliance with another woman (so long as no one got hurt -- a tall order, I know!). And come on, who wouldn't want to read some Imrahil smut! ;-)
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